A Disservice?

I've been wondering today if I have done myself a disservice by not attending WLS support group meetings or by not continuing to be an active member of sites like OH?  I attended one support group meeting hosted by my bariatric surgeon's office when I was only a couple of months post-op.  One of the things that turned me off by it was that it felt a little like a Weight Watcher's meeting.  The nurses from the office were leading the meeting and they had a set topic for the night.  The group consisted mostly of women who were much farther out than me which is why I think I felt disconnected from them.  Also, the majority of them were still overweight and much older than I.  I should be bitch slapped for even thinking this (I'm just trying to keep it real) but I believe in some dark deep recess of my subconscious mind I didn't want to be around fat people who were struggling and appeared to be "unsuccessful" even after having WLS.  I never went back.

As far as sites like OH go...ugh, the drama!  I've already been to Jr. High girls.  I really don't want to have a virtual fight with you about which surgery is best or how awful I am for eating a bran muffin to battle my post-op constipation.  It seemed like once the honeymoon phase was over that most of the people left on those sites stayed to antagonize or to get up on their soapboxes.  I do check in on OH occasionally but find that there are mostly newbies posting and that the subject matter doesn't really relate to me anymore.

I do still read several WLS related blogs but overall  I'm pretty disconnected from the WLS community.  Good or bad?

Comments

[Maija Lepore]

I try to stay connected by reading theworldaccordingtoeggfac's blog!

[Ammie Not Amy]

I read her too! Love her recipes!!! I guess I feel a disconnect because I'm not discussing my WLS surgery with other people on daily basis. Does that make sense?

[kristi]

I think it might be a matter of finding the right group. I know that studies have shown that people are much more successful with whatever they are working on, when you meet on a more regular type basis to talk it out. But with that being said, you need to find the right group. Sometimes the idiots in a certain group can just about drive you to insanity, or they dwell on the same sort of topics week after week and never seem to move on. And talking about it brings it to the front of your mind, and it offers support.

That's just my 2 cents worth. Hang in there girl!

[Ammie Not Amy]

Thanks Kristi! You are right! I feel like I need to connect with people on a more regular basis about this and perhaps gain some new insight. Sometimes it only takes a spark to reignite the motivation and passion for things you have going on in your life.